As the dust settles on the Supreme Court Ruling on Marriage, I’m writing to those who I have loved and defended, and to those who have exhibited flippant disregard for my rights. That’s correct, my rights to believe the way that I choose. For you may not realize it now or ever, but you created a caustic environment for zero tolerance, when at the very least it’s not even close to the tolerance that you were granted. When you attack others with the intent to ruin their lives because you’re offended, it’s not a champion for equality.
So, now that you have a legal community will you assimilate as/like Americans? Or will you vehemently expect the majority to believe as you do? In other words, I do not hold you in contempt like you hold me. I do not begrudge you the right to choose sexual orientation or even a sexual partner. But are you attempting to even understand why I believe this way? This has not been a campaign for equality when you take rights away from one group just to deny another their equality. If I refuse to bake you a wedding cake, or provide flowers, or refuse to perform a ceremony, would you come in force to ruin my business and livelihood? Liken to the recent past with bakers, florists, ministers, churchs, even the Mozilla CEO who was run off because he spoke of his belief on marriage that didn’t agree with your’s?
My Heart is breaking. I have to write this. My dear friends, I have loved you, prayed for you, & agonized with you over the highs and lows of your life. I have worked side by side with you. I have enjoyed quiet dinners with you, I have listened to you cry, listened to you filled with joy. I have been with you through the relationships in your life, and have encouraged you. The same can be said for you. Many of you have watched the pain and joys in my life. We’ve had hours and hours of conversations about why I am different from you and vice versa. Through all the trials, I have never, ever, treated you with contempt, belittled you, or looked down on you. I have never treated you different than any other friends or family that are dear to me. You know my religious views, and how I have strengthened my Faith in God. You know this, and yet I have never denied you your choices in life. I can say that’s not a choice for me, a sin that I choose not to commit, but you never judged me for that either.
We have been closer than a family in some sense. I have loved you and will continue to love you. Can you say the same for me? Will you come to my defense when I’m attacked for refusing to participate in a marriage that I feel is against my belief? I have watched as civil unions were celebrated and never condemned. But now, this agenda is telling me and others that we will be prosecuted for our belief, will you defend me as ardently as I defended your right? There’s no difference really. But will you defend me as ardently as I defended you? Will you say leave them alone, they have a right to believe the way they want? That’s the way I defended you to others. You may not be aware of the times that hate was sent my way for defending you, but defend you I did. Will you do the same for me? My dear friends, I love you and I always will. But I can’t be joyous over the decision to persecute another group who believes differently. Yes, I am a Christian, yes I believe in the Bible, and yes I believe marriage is between a man and a woman. God gives us all the choice to believe and follow His word, or not.
Does that make me a bigot? Does that make me love you any the less? Does that make your life less celebrated to me? If this is what you believe about me than you are sadly misled and have taken up this cause for the wrong reason. This LGBT campaign is spreading hatred. Intolerant of those who won’t join and celebrate with them. The meaning of tolerance has been lost. I realize I may lose friends for my position. But remember I love you, do you love me?
Do you realize the can of worms which has been opened? Total control of the Federal Government has been unleashed. Done away in one fatal swoop, State sovereignty. Is Socialism what you were after all along? Maybe not you, but the Liberals that took up your cause were after that goal. They used you. And you gave them the path to accomplish it. You cared more about you than you did the community as a whole. You have thrown wide open the door that will lead to Christian Persecution in this country. Already the US military is disciplining and in same cases, discharging and court martialing those who display the Bible or publicly admit their views on marriage. Yes, that’s the sad truth of what you have done.
You can’t say that Christianity is not being pushed aside, can you imagine the chaos that would have ensued had the White House changed it’s profile to one with the overlay of the Cross instead of the rainbow, a rainbow I might add that actually portrays the Covenant of God to the world’s population. I suppose we should at least be grateful of that. After all the attacks on the Bible, the White House is finally portraying a symbol of God, albeit a twisted version of that covenant. So flaunt it all you want, spread hatred all you want, God is still in control over America. God is aware of the mockery toward Him.
America is changing, but are you ready for the chaos, and ruin that comes with a society that has pushed God completely out?
By C. Refsland